A REAL mother will do anything to protect their children…

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I have noticed there is a trend starting in our comunity. The trend is to “Point the Finger” at another RFSO and say…..”I am not as bad as a Level III. My victim was a teenager”…

Or

“I did not have a victim, so the laws should apply to Level II and Level III….not me a Level I”

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I don’t have to tell you that “WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER” to the end. Level II’s are no different than Level I’s or Level III’s. A person convited with a rape charge is a every bit a sex offender as those who have molested a child….no matter what his or her age was.

I do understand that there is a GREAT difference with our youger people who do not really fall into the sex offender catagory. They should not be.

However, I want everyone to understand that we are all fighting TOGETHER for the same thing. These laws will not go away if we bicker amongst ourselves. WE FIGHT AS A TEAM…TOGETHER….OR NOT AT ALL.

We have to stop thinking we are different than the other RFSO.

Jackie Sparling COO SOClear:

What I would like to get people to understand is that there are HUGE differences between one sex offense and another. Not every man convicted of a sex offense is a child molester, or killer of children, nor are they necessarily rapists. Lies abound, exaggerations abound.

As SO Clears Chief Operations Officer, let me assure you that while we in no way support any groups such as NAMBLA, or anyone who believes that having sex with pre-pubescent children is right, we do not delineate between each “sex crime” and determine which person or person(s) we wish to repeal these laws for.

The sex offender laws affect ALL sex offenders. We all know that. Therefore whether you or your loved one was charged with CP, got caught in a Romeo/Juliet type situation, or was charged with sexual assault/rape doesn’t even come into play with our organization.

Cheryl:

Yes, there are some people who’s crimes are much worse than others… For example, my son, a violent sexual predator comitted in the FCCC never touched anyone…is he better than someone who ACTUALLY RAPED someone, or who TOUCHED a child???

His first “victim” was a dancer in a XXX place and his second “VICTIM” was a teenager who was on OUR property looking thru my sons window… BUT he is in the FCCC and is a violent sexual predator.

We must be very careful what we say, how we say it, and WHY we say it. WE are fighting unfair, ineffective laws…not each other. PJ and AZ do not care what your crime is…they will harass you no matter what.

Cheryl:

I will give an example of my son’s case.
He committed a crime in another State. I had hired an attorney for him who was pretty much useless. When he went before the judge my son was told that he could accept a plea and have 4 years in prison for a burglary charge. OR he could have 2 years in prison if he plead to burglary with intent to rape. My son asked his attorney what to do and if the attempted rape charge would follow him. His attorney said I don’t know. At the time, there was not the general hysteria there is now and the ever changing severe life destroying consequences…so my son opted for the 2 years…duh!

My son got out of prison and came to Florida to live with me. I will admit here that I really did not know anything about sex offenders or sex crimes other than what I had seen on TV. I was not prepared for the experience that followed.

My son is an alcoholic, as was his father and grandfather before him. My son and his father have a strange reaction to alcohol. My son started drinking again when he came home.

He only had a minimal amount of treatment at this time ( I am a strong proponent of sex offender treatment in prison) and a neighbor who told my son she was 16 started sneaking out of her bedroom window at night and coming to my sons window. She was sexually active and she and my son engaged in sexual conversation. Eventually she asked him to masturbate in front of her and he did. My son then admitted to this in treatment and was eventually charged with L/L and it turned out the girl was 15.My son got 5 years in prison.

After that, the laws had changed and it was almost impossible to someone who was a sexual predator to live in Fl. He had a technical violation and was put back in prison. From there he was sent to the Commitment Center. So he essentially has a life sentence.

I think it is important to note here that my son never touched either of his victims.

Nothing I have said above is offered as an excuse for my son’s behavior. There is no excuse for his behavior. The things he did were HIS decision. What he did was wrong.

I am not naive or in denial about my son’s problems.

rebornrabbit

in my opinion, there are a number of issues with his case.

First, why would they give him a lesser sentence on his initial case when they are adding crimes? Something there doesn’t sound right.

Cheryl

When I wrote the story here, I knew I sould not, I knew that I would get flamed for it, but I really wanted to make a point about ASSUMING that just because someone is a repeat offender they need to be killed.Ya know, I have been viciously attacked on this forum by Stitches and her group, I have been called every name in the book, I have had lies told about me over and over again. I have been castigated for defending myself with the truth against statements that I knew were lies. NONE of this has brought me to tears, but the reaction to my post here did.

I agree that there is something WRONG about the Judges offer. It is typical tho of what is being done to get people to accept a plea to avoid longer prison time.

I did not know what was going on, but a couple of times I was in the living room watching TV and I heard the girl at my son’s window giggling and looking for my son. Once she was actually taking the screen out of the window. I yelled out at her and told her to go away and I asked my son about it.

what I should have done was to go over to the girls house and tell her parents about it.
I guess there are probably many reasons why I did not…and one powerful reason is the fear we all live in being loved ones of sex offenders, that keeps us in silence and seclusion. This little girl had a history of this kind of behavior with other people besides my son. I guess in my heart I do place some blame on her for being the one to instigate this crap.

BUT all I said is that he does not need to be killed or put in prison for life just because he is a repeat offender…that it needs to be looked at on a case by case basis.

My son is no innocent. He has done many wrong things and in hindsight, I can see where I could have done tings differently also as he was growing up. That is aguilt I will and do just live with.

transitions:

After re-reading the post that was being referred to, it appears her son was in denial about his alcohol problem and he was an adult. This does not indicate a mother enabling her son. In my understanding and interpretation the mother had no knowledge of the visits, and was not in the role of caretaker to an adult. This removers her from a parental role which removes her from enabling her son.

Cheryl:

all I said is that he does not need to be killed or put in prison for life just because he is a repeat offender

My stake in all this is that when my son was sent to the commitment center, I was so shocked that I finally started researching the subject of sex offenses. I was quite shocked at what I found out. THE FACTS were NOT what I had been told. Sex offender recidivism was in fact very low.

all I said is that he does not need to be killed or put in prison for life just because he is a repeat offender

Zman!

If your son or daughter gets into trouble and is on the sex offender registry, then you will see the point. But until then, you will never see it…. A REAL mother will do anything to protect their children…